NonViolent Communication

NVC stands for Non-Violent Communication

NVC++

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Non-Violent Communication & Self-empathy

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonviolent_Communication

- http://morelikepeople.org/active-listening-social-change/
- NVC Active Listening Facilitation https://2016.dareconf.com/evening-courses

Software, hacking, NvC:
- Open Source and Feelings (#OSSfeel) http://www.osfeels.com/
- Non-Violent Communication for Fun, Profit, and Self Defense http://osfeels.com/speakers#isaac-z.-schlueter
- Compassionate Communities https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/3685/presentations/compassionate-communities/index.html
- How NVC can help in the Open Source Software “business” : http://blog.izs.me/post/112818868228/letter-to-marshall-rosenberg
- Words That Work in Business -- A Practical Guide to Effective Communication in the Workplace by Ike Lasater, with Julie Stiles http://nonviolentcommunication.com/store/words-that-work-business-p-119.html
- https://www.targetprocess.com/blog/2013/08/non-violent-communication-for-agile-teams/
- https://www.targetprocess.com/blog/2013/10/non-judgmental-communication-for-agile-teams/

- (possible support) http://1440multiversity.org/contact/propose-a-program/
- http://1440.org/how-we-work/

- podcast: http://geekjoypodcast.libsyn.com/12-the-joys-and-dangers-of-nvc

Empathy in Tech (Eric Romijn)

"The Little Guide to Empathetic Technical Leadership" http://empathetictechnicalleader.com

FREE to read online: https://leanpub.com/littleguide/read // PDF (soon)

Deeyah Khan On Radical Compassion with Russell Brand https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vkux4MsjK_k
- Privilege is a responsibility!

Learning NVC

Politics & NVC

https://nvctraining.com (statement "Support for Humanity: A Statement on Russia and Ukraine , Thursday, May 5, 2022) File:NVC Support for Humanity- A Statement on Russia and Ukraine.pdf

https://educators.tabletopteachingllc.com/conflict-resolution-play-free-lesson-teaching-students-about-speaking-out-for-peace-in-ukraine/

“Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact one and the same.” – Dr. Marshall Rosenberg

“We recognize that the pain is deep and that much aid will be needed now, and in the future to support

ongoing healing for all parties, Ukrainian, Russian, and others.”

“First you need to teach people a language of domination. You have to teach them a language that fits hierarchical structures that fits the story. So, you have to teach people moralistic judgment—to think in terms of who is what. Who is royalty? Who are peons? Who is right? Who is wrong? Who is normal? Who is abnormal? Language is a critical way of molding people’s minds. You can control people’s minds to a large extent by the language you put in their heads. So, it’s very important that some of the first words you want to get people to hear are the words good, bad, right, wrong, normal, abnormal, should, shouldn’t, have to, and can’t. If you want people to be controllable by authority, the key unit of education is language. What language do you pump into people’s heads?

If you really want to maintain domination structures, you have to give people a language of moralistic judgments. So, you’ve got to have psychologists and psychiatrists to say there is such a thing as mentally ill and healthy people. You have to have authorities—or church people—to say what’s good and evil: We have to educate people in a language of moralistic judgments. Why? Because, Walter Wink says, one of the key characteristics of domination structures is to make violence enjoyable. And this is a very good language for doing that. It reduces people to objects. When you think of what somebody is, you really don’t see the life in that person. You’re reducing them to an abstraction, to a static phenomenon. And then along with moralistic judgments, you need a language that obscures choice. Words that imply we have no choice except to do what authority says is right. Words like 'have to', 'should', 'ought to', 'must', 'can’t', 'supposed to'. And then you need this very important concept if you want to maintain a domination structure such as our judicial system and economic systems, the concept of 'deserve', or 'worth'. It’s very important in maintaining domination structures to get people to believe that certain actions deserve reward, certain actions deserve punishment." -- Marshall B. Rosenberg: The Heart of Social Change - How to Make a Difference in Your World”